Loyalty implies a faithfulness that is steadfast in the face of any temptation to renounce, desert or betray.Loyalty involves respect, trust and support, and promotes a sense of security and reliability. We must be able to trust one another if we wish to have healthy and harmonious relationships.
In order to appreciate the value of loyalty, one must fully comprehend the profound impact of betrayal. Betrayal is a breach of trust through the breaking of promises, commitments, agreements or vows that can cause irreparable damage to our relationships. The burn of betrayal is painful and can be long-lasting, leaving us feeling foolish for having placed our trust in someone who didn't actually deserve it.
Building trust takes time, yet can be destroyed in an instant. Like I've stated many times, trust is best saved for those who have earned it. We gain trust by keeping our word, protecting the confidences of others, and creating a space where others feel comfortable letting their guard down. This feeling of safety is what keeps us close and connected, and are the type of conditions needed for relationships to thrive. While loyalty means being there for those we care about, it also means knowing when it's more conducive to step back and garner some space.
Strong, stable, lasting relationships are built on the promise that we will do what we say. Keeping our word makes us trustworthy, reliable and cherished. Loyalty means telling it like it is, while being conscious of the impact. It is lending a hand, a compassionate ear, or a shoulder to cry on during difficult times. Shared loyalty in relationships means having each other's back, showing that we care, and always being real.
Loyalty begins with a solid foundation within ourselves. Are we honoring our own values and principles? Do we stand in our convictions even when it's hard, or do we let ourselves be swayed? Whether we're loyal or disloyal to ourselves, it always shows in our choices, actions and behaviors, and other people take notice. Instability in our own personal allegiance, ultimately signals to others that we can't be fully trusted. When we live in our integrity, we aren't influenced or pressured out of doing what we believe is right, no matter the cause. We are integrally sound. This shows others they can count on us if they need real feedback, advice or a helping hand. Not being true to ourselves torments us and can cause anger, resentment, depression, anxiety and addiction. This is because it never feels good when we are betrayed, even if we're doing it to ourselves. Especially then.