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Q: Why do we choose thoughts that weigh us down?
A: The mind THINKS - that's its job. Just like our heart beats and our lungs breathe. Similar to the memory in a computer, our mind can only output that which has first been downloaded. These downloads are inputs from our past experiences, which the mind records, then pulls information from to generate solutions and answers. Yet, we are not that voice in our head - we are the one listening. What I'm saying is, we are not the one 'choosing' thoughts. This is why it's good to go out of our mind once in awhile and into our broader perspective. The more we connect with this true consciousness, the quieter the brain chatter becomes. Meditation is one way to acheive this. Put even more simply, the brain is like a data prossessing center that spits out estimates and calculations - xyz happened before, so xyz must be true. Consciousness on the other hand, is all knowing.
Q: So, you mean you can block all negative thoughts? I am glad to hear that for you, if that is true. I know what you mean and even if I don't agree with the separation you explain, it's a wonderful statement. But it's not feasible for everyone. So my question remains. I am wondering if it's easier for the people that lack empathy.
A: When we are conscious, of course we feel deeply. The 'negative' thoughts you speak of are simply thoughts. We add the 'negative' label. This is because these particular thoughts don't feel good when thinking them, usually because at the very core of them resides some form of fear. The journey then becomes facing these fears, which transmutes these 'negative' thoughts. Then there is no longer any 'trying' not to think them, they simply dissolve. It isn't about not having empathy, it's about being conscious. This automatically brings forth acceptance, love and compassion. From this innate state of being, abundance naturally flows unrestricted. Fear = restriction. Love = freedom. So it isn't about NOT feeling, but about feeling EVERYTHING, and we all can do this if we so choose.
The first step to acceptance, is finding it for ourselves. Any 'negative' thoughts/beliefs/feelings we hold (which are simply those not aligned with the truth of who we are), is a clue that there is something we're not liking about ourselves and often at the very core of this is fear. When we face our fears they dissolve. What is left is who we actually are. We cannot experience love and fear at the same time because each is at the opposing end of the spectrum, so to speak. Much like we can't experience being fat and thin at the same time.
The disconnect for many, is with consciousness. We are taught at a very young age to 'act' appropriately, do as we are told, follow the rules and to contain/control our emotions. So we have become skilled performers, disconnected from what we actually are, which are incredible, creative originators. We are creating all the time. We are consistantly bringing into our lives exactly what we are aligned with. Once we fully grasp this, we can begin creating on purpose.
We accomplish this by confronting our fears and false beliefs, which restrict the natural flow of our abundance, and by expressing the feelings we keep avoiding. By doing so, we shine light on them and see them for what they truly are. It's not about blocking 'negative' thoughts, but rather to not grab hold and make these thoughts a part of our belief system. Instead, simply allow these fallicies to flow right through and out, like we would a good belly laugh. When we laugh about something, we don't keep laughing for hours, days or years. It just moves on through us.
The more conscious we become, the calmer we become. The more peaceful we become, the easier it is to let things go. This includes guilt, regret, anger, pain, grief, transgressions made against us, other people's opinions, and even relationships that are no longer serving us. It is then, that we begin to understand the real meaning and purpose of all we've been through.
Does this make sense?
Q: Yes it does. Thank you.