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Q: I have realized that there are certain things and people in my world that are not good for me, that de-stabilize me, that make me feel insecure about myself, that make me feel rejected and abandoned, and so unloved and yet I have such a hard time letting go of anything. Why would I want to keep someone or something in my life that makes me feel so awful about myself?
A: These types of people mirror the parts of us that already feel insecure, rejected, abandoned and unloved. They are affirming what we believe about ourselves. They are the messengers pointing to our pain and where we are losing power. No one 'makes' us feel anything. Those feelings must already be within us, to have attracted these particular people into our lives. Sometimes, we want to shoot the messengers and blame them for how we feel. In doing so, we shirk responsibility and miss an opportunity to grow. I'm certainly not saying to continue keeping these people in your life - I'm simply saying - realize why they have come. Once the message has been received, you will naturally let them go.
Q: I do believe that everyone is a mirror for us. We reflect back to each other. Maybe we need to shatter that mirror!!
A: The mirroring itself is simply how this life works. We are always viewing life through our own individual lens. When we feel insecure, rejected, abandoned or unloved, we are putting that type of vibe out and life responds.
I'm willing to bet that most people want to be accepted and loved for who they are, and to unconditionally love themselves. To accomplish this we have to face our own selves in the mirror, acknowledge what we're afraid of, then feel and express the pain residing inside us. It may seem easier to just blame others for how we feel, that way we can avoid that plunge into ourselves, which I admit is never fun. However, the only way to really shatter any unwanted mirrors is by accepting and loving ourselves - then others will simply mirror that.