Nothing is ever forgotten, it merely slumbers until a sound, a scent, a sight, a touch, a word, a person awakens it.
Have you ever noticed that sometimes when you're feeling really good, and your vibe is super high, and you're having like the best day ever, that some people seem to get adversely triggered by your happiness?
Such triggering can happen when our light is so bright that it's like a bright beam spotlighting other people's inner wounds and causing them discomfort. If the depth of their annoyance is severe enough, they'll often attempt to pull us down to their level.
A trigger is a prompting or a provoking that elicits a spark. It's anything that sets us off emotionally and activates a memory - pleasant or unpleasant. When triggered we often revert right back to the exact feelings and behaviors we had during the initial event.
It's part of why bullies bully and abusers abuse, but it's happening all the time between all of us. Shaming, blaming, passive aggression, condescending remarks, antagonistic behaviors are all attempts to feel better about ourselves by tearing down someone else.
Once we fully grasp what's causing this quandary, we are less apt to get caught up in someone else's view of us. In other words, we realize we don't need to react. We can simply walk on in our 'feel good' space without any significant impact to our well-being.
If in-fact, we ARE deeply affected by someone's perception of us, it means they are triggering us right back. An indication there's probably something unsettled within ourselves as well.
The main thing to remember in this type of situation, is that the 'message' is always for the one that gets triggered. Sometimes that's you, sometimes it's them, sometimes it's both. If it's your cage that gets rattled, rather than shooting the messenger, stop for a moment and breathe. Ask, why is this bothering me? Dive deep and decode the message. Then tweak any beliefs about yourself that don't honor your magnificence.
Self-acceptance and processing our pain will lead us all to a place where nothing really throw us into a tizzy, or ruffles-our-feathers anymore. So what will we have left once all these melodramas are over? Peace baby - love and oodles of peace!
HaPpY TwEaKs! You're so darn AMAZING!