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Q: Why were you able to wake up from your abusive experiences? What's the difference between someone who does wake up and someone who doesn't?
A: Perhaps it is resilience. Some of us just refuse to go down. 😉 I know in my case that is true. I am very much a rebel. For me, waking up means realizing the importance of taking full responsibility for my experiences, since I am the one influencing them. I guess once I truly understood how I was attracting abusive people into my world, I changed those things within myself. I began loving myself and in so doing, I began attracting loving people into my life. As adults, it's really all that is ever going on. I don't think many people understand how they are generating the experiences they are going through. That is the main mission of my story because once we understand that, we then can take our power back.
Q: How much do you think hope has to do with it? Were you at some level hopeful that something better was possible (for you)? If so, where did that hope come from, given a past experience to the contrary?
A: As you know after reading my book, that I like to play around with words. One of the things I look at is the intensity of a word and 'hope' is not a very strong word to me. It's like the difference between the words, intention and commitment. Commiting to do something is way more powerful than intending to do something. For me to 'hope' for anything is putting the power outside myself. Consciousness resides within us. We just have to connect with it. We are the generators of our experiences so what is there to hope for? Simply get in alignment with whatever it is we want, right? For example, changing our mind-set from victim to victor. This of course, takes more than mere words or wishes. It means diving into ourselves and healing our wounds by giving our pain expression so we don't have to haul it around inside us any longer. It means facing our fears until we truly realize they are nothing more than beliefs we keep believing.
During those challenging times in my personal life, I fantasized everyday about a better life for myself. I think I was simply determined and didn't like being a quote 'victim.' The most challenging part was shifting the beliefs I held about myself, since they were instilled in me at such a young age. THAT is the journey back to the self - dropping all those unhealthy beliefs that block our peace, abundance and create so much inner turmoil.